携手人生

  偶然看到这部片子，备有一面之缘之感。英国的片子，很浓厚的伦敦腔，起承转合的调子，渐渐拉着观众入了戏。
 黑幕收起，破空而入的是小河塘里舒展着四肢畅游的IRIS。清濛的一片，年青的IRIS好似水塘中飘摇的一条鱼。
 Every human soul has seen,perhaps even before their birth,pure forms,such as justice,temperance and beauty,and all the grate moral qualities which we hold in honour.We are moving towards what is good by the thick memory of these forms.
  Simple and calm and blessed,which we saw once in the pure clear lights,being pure as ourselves.
  她的一生，都在追求着自由，美好，爱与永恒。就像她的丈夫所说，他所爱的人，懂得天使的语言，她与他们交谈，她偶尔会进入那个神秘的世界。无人知晓，只有她知道。
 她是哲学家，同时也写小说。
 People always become secret of many reasons but want to become what we call ordinary.Everybody has force they want to conceal.
  People have obsessions and fears and passion which they don't commit to.I think every character is interesting and has extremes.
  It's novelist's privilege to see how odd everyone is.
  这里只有一种自由，那就是我们的思想。可是，在晚年，她却突如其来地得了艾尔齐默症。
 她时常忘却。而又偶然忆起。
 过往种种。她。他。以及那些无关紧要却深藏于心的陌生人。无关紧要是于他。她却在夜晚与他同床共枕之时念出那些风流浅淡的男人的名字。他暴戾了。他说他是一只坏猫咪，现在她的朋友都远离了，只有他还在，他却不想要她了。
 他带着她去池塘边，她穿上泳衣，潜入水中。她害怕了。淅淅拭去的记忆，带走了她往昔的智慧与才华。还好，在这长路将近的时刻，有他相伴——一个简短的，不复记忆的名字，John。
 最是记得两人相互依搀着，漫步在熟悉的海边。大海依旧波涛汹涌，她却狂放桀骜不在。天空湿漉漉的。她独坐在海边，从记事簿上撕下一页页空白的纸张，用一粒粒石子压着，以免被风吹散。好友Janet为其拍下一张照片。她孑然独坐在海边。世事难料，谁能想那曾经翻覆流丽的女子，竟留下这样迟暮垂垂的背影。她也许明了自知了，遂而推散了所有的石子，让风兀自卷走了单薄离散的纸张。
 Janet葬礼的那天，John应邀出席并发表演讲。
 爱已不在，生命将逝。
 回程路途，风雨大作。Iris扳开车门，摔了出去。John急忙停车，四处寻找，慌忙中，被车撞下路坡。黑暗中，他一眼瞥见躺在不远处的她。他跑到她身旁。她笑着，就像年轻的时候，他们参加舞会时她从楼梯上摔下后大笑一般。她笑着，望着他，说，我爱你。
 在安养中心里，Iris在阳光中翩翩独舞。她死时很安静。John握着她渐渐淡去体温的爬满皱纹的手，说。
 Iris Murdoch
 Iris Murdoch
 Iris Murdoch
  这是属于她的传奇，是属于她独自一人的故事。电影虽述说着两人的始末，但未尝不是John Bayley本人的悲哀。他追随了她一生，她却不愿为他所绊；年轻的时候，她就情人无数，直至岁末，她也不曾停驻——她忘记了一切，她曾逃叛于他。她死时很安静，早已忘怀人事。
 张爱玲曾在《有女同车》末梢写到“女人一辈子讲的是男人，念的是男人，怨的是男人，永远永远”。然而Iris不是。自由与爱占据了她的全部，她就像一只炽热的火球，满心为世界送去和悦温祥，却灼伤了自己，刺痛了怀抱她的人。她爱这人世。她爱男人，也愿意接受女人。她只是这样爱着。爱着，在自己用语言架构的天使之城中自由翱翔着，那是她的世界，那是她的选择，她没有犯错。

  年轻的Iris和John一同踩着自行车。John追不上，希望她慢下来，她大声叫道
 Just keep tight holding of me,and it will be all right
  Iris加速冲下滑坡，开怀大笑。
 
 

      平静的看完了这部淡淡的英国电影，内心却变得不再平静。
   人的衰老真是这世间上最最可怕的杀手，它杀死了一切美好的回忆。想起了奶奶和爷爷，也想到了我们，不知我们老了谁会被这可怕的病选中。它虽不痛也不痒，但却在慢慢蚕食你的记忆和心灵。清醒的那一个人更不幸，一个人自此将会跌入孤独和痛苦的万丈深渊。
   看完电影，有个问题一直在脑海里缠绕：如果另一半换上了阿茲海默症，剩下的这个人会像约翰贝利做得这般好吗？细想了一下，感觉他肯定的没问题的，而自己就……看着相伴一生的爱人把你当做陌生人，昔日一切美好的回忆都被丢掉，虽然他没有逝去，但却如同一具“可爱的尸体”……
   所以……如果真的逃不掉……真让它找上我吧！我没有勇气去做孤独的、痛苦的、醒着的那一个。

「Education doesn't make you happy. And what is freedom? We don't become happy just because we are free, if we are. Or because we have been educated, if we have. But because education may be the means by which we realize we are happy. It opens our eyes, our ears. Tells us where delights are lurking. Convinces us that there is only one freedom of any importance whatsoever: that of the mind. And give us the assurance, the confidence, to walk the path our mind, our educated mind, offers.」


「Yes, of course, there's something fishy about describing people's feelings. Try hard to be accurate, but as soon as you start to define such and such a feeling, language lets you down. It's really a machine for making falsehoods. When we really speak the truth, words are insufficient. Almost everything, except thing like "pass the gravy," is a lie of a sort.」


「People, of course, are very secretive... and, for many reasons, want to appear what... what we call ordinary. Everybody has thoughts they want to conceal, perhaps even quite simple aspects of their lives. People have obsessions and fears and passions which they don't admit to. I think any character is interesting and has extremes. It's the novelist's privilege to see how odd everyone is.」


「What about friends in your other world?
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You know more about me than anyone on earth. You are my world.」


「Human beings love each other... in sex, in friendship and when they're in love. And they cherish other beings, humans, animals, plants, even stones.」


「We need to believe in something divine without the need for God, something we might call love or goodness. As the Psalm says, "Whither shall I go from thy spirit? Whither shall I flee from thy presence? If I ascend unto heaven, thou art there. If I make m bed in hell, behold, thou art there. If I take the wings of the morning and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, even there shall thy hand lead me and thy right hand shall hold me."」

没看到开头,也没看完结尾.
然而这部电影却给人影响深刻,很值得一看.演员的表演十分精湛而味道十足;情节是温馨暖人的.在这样秋季看来让人心生暖流,感到世间真爱,即便秋天是萧瑟枯萎,而带着温暖的心意和力量,前方到来的还是繁花似锦的春天啊!
人生总是要带着美好的爱和希望前行.

回忆交织之间，今昔相较，可见同甘很甜，共苦太苦。最难过是看到世上最尖锐的目光渐渐空洞；当我的大脑枯萎得连一片翻飞的落叶尚且不如，你是否依旧待我如初。男主有一句话让我动容：不要说抱歉，这一切对你来说才是最不公平的。
love is gone ,so is anna . 是里面男主角在一个葬礼上演讲时说的安娜指 安娜卡列尼娜，这句话，和听到这句话后痴呆的女主人公的反应，深深刻在了我心里